There are so many things that can make me happy. From small to big, the things vary. I feel happy when I get attention, money or even achievement. Of course, freedom brings goodness and happiness to life.
However, as I’m joining a quarter-life, where we live more freely, no more parents rules, earn and spend our own money, and can enjoy the time with your rules, I personally feel more anxious.
Anxious about the future; whether it’s about a relationship, career and material things, or even anxious with the state of mind that thinks, “Shit, I’m left behind by other people. How to catch ‘em up?!”
The problem is also about social media. Its algorithm shows us examples that always make us jealous. Even though we are aware that social media is the result of people’s filter, this freedom still creates anxiety.
The premise of the happiness and joy of living in freedom is immediately broken by these facts. We just imagine an individual has the principle of living freely as possible, are they guaranteed happiness and satisfaction? Of course not. As I said.
“I’m free, so I’m anxious.”
It’s the perfect sentence to wrap everything.
Someone should feel happy if he’s free, independent and live without any restrictive rules. But Søren Kierkegaard, an important figure who lived in Denmark’s golden age, think otherwise.
I learn his belief. He affirmed every human being has the freedom to determine his life. He saw that the moral decision was in everyone’s hands. However, this freedom consciously or not creates feelings of anxiety or fear in us.
“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.”Kierkegaard
Our free thoughts lead us to overthink, which can lead to depression.
Unhappiness arises from human nature itself who wants to live freely as possible. There are no obstacles, no handcuffs in our hands, we all alone have the right to chose our own life.
Kierkegaard described this feeling in his book, The Concept of Anxiety.
Kierkegaard reminds us that we experience anxiety in all of our moral choices. He described this anxiety as “dizzying freedom”.
In this way, it increases our self-awareness and sense of personal responsibility. Kierkegaard himself has his recipe to treat human anxiety because of living in this freedom.
The recipe is more about life’s hold: Leap of Faith. Man must believe in his faith, not in reason that thinks about his freedom. Because when thinking about it only with reason, humans can get trapped in anxiety and restlessness.
It sounds ethical, but according to him, a mantra or belief in faith can be transformed into a weapon to destroy the suffering of anxiety.
Freedom can lead us to happiness if we can collaborate logic with trust.
Kierkegaard stated, don’t think too much, and make decisions based on faith. As a theologian, he also encouraged individuals to believe that God has an essence in each individual, by entrusting faith, he has removed doubts over the freedom that has been condemned.
For myself, freedom means responsible. There are no pushy people. The pressure sometimes comes from yourself. Freedom can be managed if we understand the consequences for our lives.